Happy Monday and Happy Thanksgiving.
Maybe it’s because Thanksgiving is already here or that New Year is right around the corner, but folks have been asking me lots about how to help them find their “dream job” and all that. Mainly it sounds like this: “Given the current status of our economy, how can I ever hope to get my dream job?”
I know it’s easy to get discouraged right now. Negative news is everywhere but here are some quick keys to get you through it all and how not to give up on your dream:
1. Turn off all negative stuff: I did this myself this past summer and the results were immediate and amazing. My overall attitude and feelings of well being improve immensely. Trust me, I still watched the news but if a story was negative, I changed the channel. And, if you feel you need to stay connected with the news watch the news when you get home but do not watch the news just prior to going to bed. None of us need all that rolling around in our brain at night!
2. Check your dream: What I mean here is to check that your dream is realistic. Now don’t you go and decide that for yourself (it is too easy to talk yourself out of your dream, get discouraged or not go for it all). Check your dream with someone who would know and has your best intentions at heart. Someone in that field. Or a career coach. Or a school counselor. Or a mentor. Or a peer. In other words, get independent advice of someone without a hidden agenda.
3. Research, Research, Research: There’s an old saying that 99 percent of success is in the preparation. So do your research. We live in the land of the internet and social networking like LinkedIn and Twitter. You can reach unprecedented numbers of people in many different ways. It’s vital to educate yourself so you can create a realistic new life/career plan.
4. Breathe: Yup, the best de-stressor I know. This is new for me and it works. Everytime.
5. Create your own little mini board of directors: When I started my first company, I did this. Mind you, we didn’t regularly meet (would have been better if we had, I never got around to that) but, I had my “go to people.” I went to them when I got stuck on any variety of issues such as employee issues, financial issues, life-balance and marketing issues. If you are stuck on how to create one for yourself, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll brainstorm.
6. Practice Gratitude: I think gratitude is one of the most powerful forces in the Universe. We can’t just practice this one week out of the year, it’s best as a daily practice. For me, that practice has helped me through the good and the bad in all aspects of my life. I love the website www.thankfulfor.com. The website features a gratitude journal where I write 3 or 4 things down. I don’t do this every day but each and every time I do it, my whole attitude—my whole being enters a different space. It’s magical for me. Give gratitude a go, however you choose to do so, and observe how life changing and attitude changing it can be.
7. Remember that your current success & “failures” brought you to today: What I mean by that is that you’re here today because of past successes. Many successful lawyers and business professionals that I coach worry year to year that their business will dry up. Yes, that can happen if you aren’t keeping informed in your industry and marketing yourself, but my experience overall is that we all torture ourselves with that and it’s often just anxiety . So my best advice is to gently let it go.
The main point of all this is. Take your power back and take ownership of your dreams. Maybe after doing your research, your dream needs to change, alter or get tweaked a bit. But don’t just toss your dreams out with the leftover Thanksgiving turkey and stuffing because the economy is bad! Dream, dream big, dream really big! In that regard, one of the best quotes I have come across that has always kept me going is by Joan Baez… “Action is the antidote to despair.” Now, how powerful is that?
In Love & Gratitude,
Patricia A. Comeford
CEO, YOU’RE NEVER STUCK, INC., WWW.YOURENEVERSTUCK.COM