Don’t Be Victim To The Blame Game

Perhaps it’s the recent tragic shooting in Tucson, Arizona of Gabrielle Giffords and our current political climate, but I have been thinking lots about the practice of blame these days.  It seems to be everywhere and getting worse. In order to change, we don’t need to debate how we got there, we can just look at its effects, how it showed up, and if we want to allow it to affect our own lives.

So in the spirit of “doing better,” the next time you catch yourself wanting to blame someone or something for your problems, consider this:

Blaming keeps you:

1. Stuck

2. Powerless

3. In shame

4. In denial

5. In permanent grief

The better, more empowering choice is to own up to responsibility. With responsibility, you receive:

1. The opportunity to genuinely learn from your mistakes.

2. Heal any appropriate guilt.

3. Open a new dialogue.

4. Move forward with your life.

5. Freedom.

So I ask you, which will you choose?

With Love,

Patricia A. Comeford

Author, Lessons from a Headhunter with …Heart!



1 Comment

Filed under Change, Personal Growth, relationships, Self Care, Self Help

One response to “Don’t Be Victim To The Blame Game

  1. Jessica Roe

    Love this one Pat. Hope you’re doing well!

    Jessica Roe


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