We recently visited Chicago for our grand-daughter Gwyneth’s 3rd birthday.
Aside from being utterly delicious, she’s a wise one. She’s turned inside and found a way to calm herself when need be and connect with others. Our family calls it: The Ear Rub (#TheEarRub). From time to time, she’ll stop and give herself a little break and rub her own ear or that of someone she loves.
Psychologists tell us that the stress response is a natural part of our survival instincts. The amygdala is the part of our brain that processes basic feelings; it plays a big role in sounding an alert for threatening situations. It also triggers fight or flight behaviors. This works well as long as there is a threat that you need to run away from or defend yourself against. For many of us however, our body suffers from being on high alert continuously. It often shows up as high cortisol or as a continual state of anxiety. Anxiety affects over 40 million people over the age of 18 and cost the U.S. more than $42 billion a year. It’s estimated that 1 in 8 children suffer from anxiety and it’s climbing at an alarming rate!
Hence, the importance of engaging in self-soothing behaviors!
How do I self -soothe? I’ve tried the breathing thing to no avail; I know it works for many but I just get frustrated. Pilates & yoga, reading work well for me. Prayer is my absolute favorite. But my secret self-soothe? As the infamous May West so aptly said: When in doubt, take a BATH.
What’s your #TheEarRub? Please share below, we’d love to know!
And always remember, You’re Never Stuck.
Patty Comeford Adams