As it’s a busy week at the “Adams Ranch” preparing for an event at our home for our favorite charity, Children’s Hospital & Clinics of Minnesota (www.childrensmn.org), this blog post will be brief. Frankly, this particular post was unplanned…until I woke up yesterday and read fellow blogger Curt Schilling’s post on the bullying and despicable behavior experienced by his daughter. My blood has been boiling ever since!
In case you missed it, Curt Schilling is a well-regarded baseball pitcher, a proud American and a man of faith. He writes a blog called 38 Pitches at http://www. 38pitches.wordpress.com. Innocently enough and like any proud parent, he recently tweeted about his daughter’s acceptance to college and upcoming pitching career. The barrage of utterly vulgar and beyond inappropriate tweets in response to his innocent post stopped him in his tracks and he went on the offensive. And, if it hasn’t already, it should stop you in your tracks as well. The story did make its way to Good Morning America and a few other outlets. You can also read a G-rated synopsis of it all here in People Magazine:
That said, a big question looms. What are we doing as society, as parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents , citizens to cultivate such behavior? We can’t sit by and blame the other guy, that bad parent, the government, the media. That’s a cop-out. If that’s our response, it will never change and it simply must change. Getting off social media isn’t the answer either; it’s here to stay and does its own good in many cases. (Think: #ALS Ice Bucket Challenge)
So what can we do?
Well for starters, you can all read Curt’s blog and share your outrage on social media. One of these young men was fired at his part-time job at the Yankees for his despicable tweet; others’ accounts (but not all) were suspended. That’s a start but many were involved and they need to be called out.
Secondly, much like the hateful Tweets/Posts to Robin William’s daughter after her father’s death , we can keep the pressure on Facebook, Twitter and other social media websites to disable bullies’ accounts. In my view, it should be a one strike and you’re out. After all, it’s our internet too and it’s time to take it back from these thugs.
Lastly, while many employers already review applicants’ and employees’ social media postings, we can bring such reprehensible behavior to employers’ attention and encourage them to change their policy manuals to ensure firing for cause in such cases. Just think ~ if someone knew they were going to lose their job, would they do this? Sure maybe a few knuckleheads would; but loss of a job is often a powerful motivator. We need more of that motivation apparently .
Yes, so in my book, Curt Schilling (most likely reluctantly) is everyone’s hero. Let’s get the internet unstuck and give Curt and his beautiful daughter the gift of action. It’s way more important than what color #thedress is!
Patty Comeford Adams