As much as writing is often “therapy” , for obvious reasons the last couple days have found me at a loss for words. Now emerging a bit, a couple of observations:
Much has been written about social media and the demise of our society. In fact, my last blog post on what I am calling the #CurtShillingMovement touched on both the bad and the good of social media. The last few days however have re-affirmed for me the good. Case in point: the social media outpouring of love about the life, tweets and writings of my husband’s daughter in law, Lisa Bonchek Adams, under the hashtag #rememberLisa.
After reading many of those tweets Saturday, I tweeted @youreneverstuck:
“So much evidence today that 1 person can change the world’
citing just one of her many legacies–the metastatic breast cancer research fund she set up here:
And what a force of change she was! Who will ever look at breast cancer pink ribbons, flowers, corgis, peanut butter, Sarah Oliver Handbags, Easton Designs, books, MBC, Franklin & Marshall, Gail Dosik’s cookies, Sloan Kettering and not think of her? While it’s easy to get discouraged with how rotten our world can be at times, she showed us all of us just how much one person can affect change. In the poignant words of son Clarke, “She was extraordinary in every way”.
While I do not speak for the family in any way, one of her legacies in our own home was the love she showed my husband after his late wife Barbara died. Few people know that after my husband was released from an extended hospital stay, Lisa flew across the country to Arizona and literally nursed him back to health. Just recently, I found the health binder she so expertly put together for him. It was everything you would expect from Lisa: organized, thorough and clever. After finding it, we texted her in thanks that day asking if we could come & help. Her response? That all was running smoothly at home (indeed it was), that it had been her honor to take care of “Clarke the father” and how happy she was to see him living such a full and healthy life. What astounding grace.
As such and with the utmost gratitude, Clarke & I share the following from her website,wwwLisabadams.com , with you:
IN MEMORIUM – 6 MARCH
The thousands upon thousands who knew and loved Lisa Bonchek Adams; whether in person or via Facebook, Twitter, or her website and blog read around the world; whether up close or from afar; will find it hard to believe that her steely will and indomitable spirit were finally overcome by the disease she had lived with for so many years.
Lisa died at home around 9:45 pm on Friday, March 06, 2015, surrounded by her entire family.
Lisa was cared for to the end by her beloved Dr. Chau Dang of Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Lisa specifically asked that anyone who wishes to honor her memory do so with a contribution to her fund for breast cancer research at MSKCC.
The Adams and Bonchek families send a heartfelt thank you to all for your love and support. We know that Lisa will always be a part of your lives, as she will be a part of ours.
Services consistent with her wishes will be arranged and announced here.
In keeping with Lisa’s wishes, this web site will be maintained as a resource of Lisa’s writings about metastatic breast cancer, grief and loss, life, and family.
“Find a bit of beauty in the world today. Share it. If you can’t find it, create it. Some days this may be hard to do. Persevere.”
*Should her writings touch your heart, we hope you will join the many others who have donated to her Metastatic Breast Cancer Research fund: http://mskcc.convio.net/site/TR?pg=fund&fr_id=1590&pxfid=27471
With Love and her most beautiful 5 bits of beauty ,
Patty Comeford Adams & Clarke Adams