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How To Get Unstuck from a Job You Hate

I receive a lot of emails from folks about feeling stuck in jobs, marriage, and money situations. Of late the bulk seem to go like this: ” Help! I hate my job!! I need to get out here asap! What can I do?”  So today, we focus on getting unstuck from a job you hate.

The first thing you have to do is dial back the hate big time. I know, I know you deserve to kick and scream and vent. But I’m here to tell you after 18 years in the recruiting business, hating your job won’t help you find something better. Sorry to ruin the pity party but it’s true. Now don’t think I’m getting all “judge-y” with you. Heck, I fell into that trap myself. I hated my job as a lawyer from day two and I stayed there hating and telling everyone that I hated it for two whole years. All that hating just made me feel stuck, unable to move forward and very miserable.

We see this phenomenon in other areas of our life. Dr John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute has performed decades of research on couples’ relationships.  Gottman has found 4 kinds of negativity , which he calls “the four horsemen of the apocalypse”. The research shows that  4 horsemen literally destroy relationships. They include:

  1. Criticism;
  2. Contempt;
  3. Defensiveness; and
  4. Stonewalling.

So what does couples research have to do with job search and career fulfillment? Well, as it turns out, quite a bit.

Criticism and contempt are often present in individuals thinking about or undergoing a job search.  With criticism, it is certainly easier to focus on what’s wrong with our employer or boss. Contempt rears its ugly head in all sorts of ways including sarcasm, cynicism, put-downs.  Defensiveness and stonewalling seem to run rampant in the workplace.  God forbid we take responsibility for our situation and communicate!

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So how do we get past the 4 deadly horsemen and get unstuck?

Again, we can learn from Gottman’s research. One of the first things Gottman does is to challenge couples to communicate 5 positive comments for every negative one. Try it in your relationship; it’s not so easy!.

For me, the career lesson learned was that when I stopped criticizing and hating my job, things began to shift in my work life. No, it didn’t magically change, gates didn’t fly open and birds didn’t start chirping from the heavens above, but things did shift and eventually change dramatically.

So this week when you catch yourself hating on whatever, I challenge you to try “the Gottman”and see what starts to unfold.

And as always, if you would be so kind as to share your story/struggle/advice with others below, we’d be most grateful. Heck, you might even help someone get unstuck!

With Love,
Patty Comeford Adams

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Gently Down the Revenue Stream

 

Last week’s blog talked a bit about supporting yourself and your family via revenue streams versus “the traditional job model” that many of us have become so accustomed to.  Many of you are eager to learn more about multiple revenue streams and today I’ll give examples and explain how you can make that happen for yourself.

As I’ve stated before, I truly believe our careers and personal lives are intertwined.  It is really not possible to separate the two.  Here are 4 real life examples of people “thinking out of the box” and changing not only their unemployment status or loss of income status, but changing their lives as those around them as well.  Please note:  some of the names in the following examples have been changed to protect the innocent:)

1.  Annie the accountant:  Annie was laid off last January.  She searched and searched for an accountant job but, found nothing was out there.  So she approached a high end temporary consulting firm.  She now consults with two different clients at the firm; one of the clients 2 days a week, and another client 2 days a week.  On Friday’s she works directly for her former clients, friends and family.  Guess what?  Annie now is making more money than her former “JOB” paid and she has lots of flexibility.  Many multiple streams!

2. Sam the salesman:  Sam sold financial leasing programs to CFO’s and CEO’s for the last 20 years. Then, the finance market collapsed.  His industry collapsed.  His company collapsed. Like everyone, he had lots of financial obligations and suddenly no job and no income.  He proactively cut back on expenses but after a year plus of looking for a job–nothing.  So, he had to “think out of the box” and did!  Being a numbers guy who could sell to top level executives, he attained his securities and insurance licenses.  He kept forward movement with lots of studying and hard work. As I’ve stated before, “no pity party here.” Sam is not peddling stocks across the table.  He thought bigger.  He is going into corporations (ie: using his C-level sales skills) and selling them various insurance programs and 401k products.  He is also marketing financial leasing programs to those folks. He now has multiple reasons to talk to them and multiple sources of revenue. Good work Sam!

3. Molly the realtor:  Molly, as I’ve written about before, is a successful realtor, but with the prices of homes and buyers continuing drop she proactively began to shift her focus and look for new ways to earn additional income.  Molly now helps me with marketing and computer work, she walks a neighbor dog each day-and gets paid for walking – imagine that!  She also makes business calls for her fiancé to help him grow his business too, paying it forward, in addition to maintaining her real estate business.  These multiple revenue streams allow her to maintain the flexibility needed in real estate yet earn her additional income as well.

4. Larry the Lawyer: Larry has been a successful litigator for years. In his mind that is all he thought he could do. Wrong-oh!  He didn’t quit but instead approached his firm to cut a deal. He kept his clients there and others in the law firm are servicing them. He receives a cut of the work given they remain as his clients. Now, Larry has lots of experience litigating and truly enjoys settling cases.  He is now a successful mediator as well, because clients and judges trust him.  He has morphed and designed his own career and is extremely successful because he has found his passion!  He is earning more than he did as a partner, working less and loving what he is doing.  This is a great example of moving gently down the multiple revenue streams.  For, Larry did not upset the apple cart, he gently started designing his own new career path.

So I ask you…what streams can you create?  Think big. This can be a time in your life when you look back a few years from now, and if you do it right, you could see this as a monumental turning point for you, for your family.  Think about your hobbies, your passions, your skills.  How many streams can you create for yourself?  The options are endless.

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Put Excuses Behind You and Job Search Out in Front

I am hearing lots and lots from clients these days about not being able to get a job. Hmmm.  Yes, we are in a tough recession and many jobs have been lost.  Nonetheless, for many of you, you are making self destructive (and potentially family destructing) choices on not getting a job.  Sorry to be so blunt, but I call them excuses.  The excuses typically sound like this:

Excuse 1:  “Yes, I could get a job in my industry but I want to get a job in another field so I will just wait until I find one.”

You’re Never Stuck Feedback:  That’s terrific…BUT…how are you going to support yourself and your family?  Are you expecting someone else to support you?  That sounds a lot like entitlement, which breeds dependency.  Is that what you want for yourself?  Is that the example you want to set for your children?  Wouldn’t it be more empowering to instead choose to have a job in your current field but work toward your new dream job?

Excuse 2:  “There are no jobs.”

You’re Never Stuck Feedback:  I call “B.S.” on that one. Yes, there are fewer jobs out there but there are jobs. Now, you may not want a particular job or think it is below you, but again, there are jobs.  I have a lawyer client that I coach.  She decided movement is better than sitting idle, and to make ends meet she started cleaning houses. Yes, it’s below her skill set but she is doing what she has to do for her, and her family.  (BTW – I love house cleaners – they are a gift to many).  I have another client who just lost his business.  He sucked it up and went for a job with one of his competitors.  He has a family to support.  No pity party there.  And don’t forget you can support yourself via several income streams–it doesn’t have to come from one place.  We’ll expand more about that in a future blog.

Excuse 3:  “I apply online and nothing happens.”

You’re Never Stuck Feedback:  The number 1 way people get hired today is still through other people – good old fashioned networking, and to be quite honest letting others/the industry know you are looking for a job.  People hire people.  There are many ways to accomplish this:  Through your church, an extra-curricular group, hobby, or people you meet as you are out in public – tell everyone!  You also need to join Linkedin, Facebook and Twitter to expand your network.

Excuse 4: “I’m sick. I’m depressed. I give up.”

You’re Never Stuck Feedback:  Please don’t give up. Ever.  That’s choosing victim thinking. If you are depressed or sick, get help ASAP. That is the first step in taking your power back and healing. There are tons of FREE resources to get help such as 12 step programs, church support groups and your friend network.

Excuse 5:  “I don’t know how to find a job.”

You’re Never Stuck Feedback:  Unlike 10 years ago, there are tons and tons of FREE resources on everything from writing a resume to cover letters online.  Check out my website at http://www.youreneverstuck.com for the free chapters on interviewing and cover letters.  Google it!  Search for websites, articles and blogs of people talking and writing about similar topics.  Join a local support group or class to expand your network and your skills.  Know that you are not alone.  There are a lot of people willing to share what they’ve learned from the process.  I’m willing to share too, for you can find some of my favorite resources on the Lessons From a Headhunter Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Lessons-From-A-Headhunterwith-Heart/300344826289.

I haven’t gone heartless on you my dear readers.  But a good coach calls a spade a spade and holds a mirror to your face and helps you move forward.  People are getting jobs.  They may have to work a lot harder to get a job or take one they never thought they would need to but this is a reality in today’s economy.  So ditch the excuses and choose empowerment and action instead.  I believe in you!  You can do it!

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Good Grief, Charlie Brown – Part Two

 

Last week’s blog post regarding friendship and grief certainly seems to have struck a cord with you, my readers.  Hence, a Good Grief Charlie Brown – Part Two seems in order.

It’s clear from the many emails received that a lot of you are experiencing intense challenges.  As we are all too well aware, these are unprecedented times.  Let me begin by saying that you may feel stuck, feel alone, feel abandoned (you pick the label), but know this:  you can overcome any unwanted feelings and overcome any obstacles once you set your mind to it.  It may be tough.  It may not be fun, but you can make it happen if you CHOOSE to do so.  But you must choose.  One of the very ironic things I have learned along the way is we are better able to CHOOSE when we show up for others.  “Being there” emotionally and spiritually for someone unconditionally opens up many blessings.  And those blessings are not just for the person you are helping, they bless you too! 

Let me share a bit how this has worked for me in my business life and personal life.  When I was writing my book, people would joke with me and say, “A headhunter writing about spiritual purposes?  Are you kidding?”  I guess it is rather odd in a sense.   However, one of the very big mistakes people make in their careers and job search is compartmentalizing their work life.  Your work life is not separate from your personal life even if Western society wants to tell us that.  In fact, many of my clients came to me while I was a headhunter and come to me now as a career coach with their heads hanging low, dejected after being laid off or quitting jobs that were sucking the life blood out of them.  In defining what they really want out of their new career, and with their own hard work, we are able to uncover what they really want from their work and their life.  In many cases this results in helping them earn more money than they ever envisioned.  By loving my work and them, I helped them find their true career passion.  In many cases, this in turn opened up doors for them to spend more time with their family, send their children to a better school or to perform volunteer work in the community with that extra time.  It pays it forward.

But the real Yin and Yang of it all, is that they helped me too.  By assisting my clients in their career searches over the years it inspired me to write Lessons from a Headhunter with Heart.  Writing a book was something I had always wanted to do.  What a gift I received from them.  See the magic?

Here’s another amazing example – more personal in nature.  This summer, after much reflection and prayer, I ended a 5 year relationship/engagement.  It was one of the more difficult things I have ever had to do.  The decision was gut wrenchingly difficult for me because I loved his kids like my own, loved his family and loved him.  From all outward appearances, everything looked like the fairytale we young women get socialized to believe in. You know the one.  The handsome charming prince enters your life, the longed for “instant family,” love conquers all, right???  Not so.  I was literally dying on the inside, unable to sleep, unable to write and in a huge values conflict.  But, through the pain of the relationship ending it has produced endless spiritual growth, learning and new doors that would have never opened otherwise. 

You see, out of the blue,  Molly H., who knew me only as an acquaintance through my ex-fiancé, reached out to me in pure, loving kindness when I needed it most.  And not to bash my ex or lament over “how there are no good men out there,” (neither of which I wanted to participate in), but to just be there for me unconditionally.  She didn’t care if I chose to agree to reconcile or not.  She just was there.  It started with talks, then several walks and before I/we knew it, a new friendship was forming and new paths of creativity and support were being opened up for us BOTH.  This was so because Molly, as with most realtors nowadays, has been affected by the slow real estate market.  (BTW, she’s a sharp, trustworthy realtor if you need a Minnesota real estate agent: www.mollymnrealtor.com).  I needed someone to help with my blog and market my book.  Guess who has another income stream?  Molly.  Guess who now has a crackerjack marketing assistant who is helping me market my book, my blog and my website www.YoureNeverStuck.com?  Patty.  Guess whose client network is now expanding?  Molly.  Guess whose life in infinitely richer, more organized and full of laughter now?  Patty. 

So kindness begot more than just “kindness,” it brought real tangible results for both of us. It gives me goose bumps.  Mind you, none of this would have happened if either one of us had said:

  • I don’t have time.
  • I’m staying out of it.
  • That’s not my problem.
  • I can’t relate to what she is going through (ie: – it’s too scary, it might happen to me)
  • I’ve got my own set of problems to worry about.

The above comments and excuses for not loving another make me wish our schools taught kindness as part of the curriculum along with math, English and Economics.  The Dalai Lama says, “Kindness is my religion.”  How perfect.  Find out more about the Dalai Lama at:  www.dalailama.com.  Kindness is pretty darn simple.  Let’s not make it complicated folks.

Here is another great example:  My writer friend Neal S. never misses a chance at helping others.  He raises more and more money for inner city youth activity programs each and every year.  He does it gracefully, tirelessly and with a true heart.  He is not in it to pad his resume, gain accolades or climb social ladders.  He just does it because he is a good citizen who wants to give back to his community.  He’s so humble that he wouldn’t like it a bit that I am writing this, but doesn’t that speak volumes about his character and the kind of person this “blessing” others creates?  After my blog last week I learned that he and his wife are helping a neighborhood kid whose mother is so strung out on cocaine that she could give a “rat’s you know what” whether her daughter makes it to school.  So guess who is driving her?  Yep, that would be Neal.

On the job/career/economy front, the latest jobs report statistics came out last week. Overall, another 95,000 jobs were lost in September, 2010 alone. Ouch!  It seems like there is no end.  But as Arianna Huffington points out in her fabulous blog, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arianna-huffington/cando-entrepreneurs-move-_b_759184.html, “There are a whole group of entrepreneurs helping not only each other but helping others create a livelihood where no jobs exist.”  Huffington points out that, “It’s easy to get cynical.  But instead a group of “can-do” entrepreneurs are creating commerce and jobs for themselves and others.”  She goes on to astutely say, “I love how human this movement is.  It is fueled by technology, but at its core is the real person connecting to another person.”  There we go folks real people blessing others.  More magic.

So I leave you with this.  Whether you help someone in a subtle way by “just being there” for that person as my friend Molly did with me, or perhaps more overtly by actively assisting another through volunteer work or giving career/networking advice when someone needs to hear it.  I feel it’s our “job” to help others.  How will YOU show up for another unconditionally?  How about demonstrating your humanity toward one of the latest 95,000 newly unemployed friends, past co-workers, family members or members of your community who recently lost their jobs?  Even if it is just to lend an ear, please do it.  

I’d love to hear from you on this.   Please email me at patty.youreneverstuck@gmail.com and tell me your personal story of how someone blessed you during a time of need or perhaps you blessed someone in need.  I just might blog about you.

Many blessings,

Patricia A. Comeford

Author, Lessons from a Headhunter with …Heart! (available at www.amazon.com)

CEO, YOU’RE NEVER STUCK, INC., WWW.YOURENEVERSTUCK.COM

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Good Grief, Charlie Brown

I have been thinking lots about friendship, grief and support of late.  Reading lots about it too.

I am struck by how seemingly scared people are to be there for another in their grief.  It seems they almost fear they will catch themselves a case of “grief,” like the common cold.  How utterly tragic.

In my own experience when I show up for someone who is grieving, not only am I there for the other person but I am there for myself.  I feel connected with the Divine, my Higher Power.  It is a blessing on me.  I learn so much.

Nowhere do I see this fear of grief more often these days than in job loss scenarios and divorce.  Some people seem to think that if they reach out to another in one of those two scenarios, they will lose their job or their own relationship might suffer.  This often manifests in words like “we don’t want to get involved” or “I know nothing about job searching so I could never help you with that.”  Ugh. Double ugh.

Unemployment statistics come out this week.  There will undoubtedly be someone you know in that mix.  Unemployment knows no class boundaries today.  Are you really going to sit by quietly and not reach out to that friend or family member in need?  If each of us just reached out to one person, can you imagine the impact?  Lesson 28 in my book, Lessons from a Headhunter…with Heart, reveals that the single most important thing a person can do in their job search is have one person just to lean on.   But trust me, as discussed in my book, avoid your spouse people.  It’s just too much pressure between the two of you, and your spouse appropriately has his or her own agenda. What you should do with your spouse is to set up “an upfront contract” or agreement to keep them informed at least weekly of your progress.  That way they won’t have to ask and you will have additional accountability.  This is a grown up solution to a grown up but all too present day condition of unemployment. 

 Having one person who will unconditionally support you in your search often makes the difference between success and failure in securing that next job.  You can relieve so much stress, fear and anxiety by just reaching out and alleviating that person’s stress of needing to ask.  As Nike would say, “Just Do it.” Now.  You don’t have to do it perfectly.  You just have to do it .

And on the relationship front, nothing could be more loving than to just say “I am here for you.”  That doesn’t mean you are taking sides.  And maybe sometimes taking a side is very important if someone is behaving with no integrity.  (Do you really want people lacking in integrity in your life??) You get to decide that issue.

The point is this:  You are just being there by giving love, not judgment.  My friend Laurie S. did this for me a while back.  She just said “Sometimes you just can’t take it.”  Wow!  Did I feel loved.  It got me through a hard day.  Then there was Rebecca who just said “I know, but it just stinks.”  And then there is Dr. Kelly, my long time pal, who just ever so bluntly said “Man up.  You are sticking to your values.  Your truth.”

All such simple words of kindness but words which changed my day.

Marianne Williamson in her book Illuminata, a Return to Prayers, says it this way:

“Friends are our extended family. Their good is in extrinsically bound up with ours.  Our concern for their good is our concern for ourselves. This doesn’t mean we are here to enable, but it does mean that we are here to care and to care actively.”

(You can find more about Marianne Williamson at:  http://www.marianne.com/)

Too many times, we set boundaries that are boundaries against our willingness to love.  What is the purpose of being a friend if we don’t take seriously the responsibility of supporting someone?

So here is the take away:  As they would say in the book The Secret, or in law of attraction circles – lending your kindness, your time, your support, your ear, your advice unconditionally might not only change the life of a friend or family member, but you’ll be amazed at how helping someone else in time of need just might change your life as well.

Patricia Comeford

Author, Lessons from a Headhunter with …Heart! (available at http://www.amazon.com)

CEO, YOU’RE NEVER STUCK, INC., WWW.YOURENEVERSTUCK.COM

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Welcome to the YOURENEVERSTUCK Blog


You’re Never Stuck. …Really.

I know it sure feels like we are stuck sometimes. In fact, here I am with a company called “You’re Never Stuck, Inc.” and I spent the last few years feeling very, very stuck. Geeeeezzzzz, talk about the irony!  But here’s the thing, being stuck is all in our minds.  It’s not real.  I just thought I was stuck.  But guess what.  I wasn’t stuck and neither are you.  It was/ is just a feeling ~ and you have the power to change that.

But wait!!!   Where is all this coming from and who the heck am I ???

My Story:

Yeah,  I’m the author of  Lessons From a Headhunter….with Heart and someone who sold her company to a public company against all odds.  A “recovered lawyer”.  And yes, I’m a business, branding and career strategist.  But the journey there …and the journey we are all on now is much more revealing.

You see, I was one of those unhappy young women lawyers sporting a bow-tie  (yikes–total fashion don’t) working in a fancy law firm making more money at age 29 than she had ever dreamed of.  And I was one of three women in the entire 35 person law firm and,  frankly in 1989, they didn’t really know what to do with us. So the joke was that most of the women lawyer’s time “courtroom experience” was spent in Conciliation Court versus Federal Court.  Hmmmmm.  Anyway, despite working through college and law school, I had tons of school loans.  Law school is very expensive.  And I had lots of other debt because  I just “had” to buy the fancy car.  Had to have the “nice”  apartment.  The nice clothes.

But I was miserable.  Really miserable.  The kind of miserable where I had to talk myself into going into work each and every day.  Definitely depression — but nobody talked about openly in 1989.  So….. I quit my job…. to start a business.  Now  don’t go quitting your job because I did.  I want to make it perfectly clear that I did a lot of work before I quit.  I had a market study done to advise on whether it was a viable idea.  I wrote a detailed business plan. Made a budget.  Created some tremendous mentor relationships with other entrepreneurs, etc.  And then, I quit.

My family thought I had lost it. I had senior partners in the law firm tell me I would fail and others tell me behind closed doors that they felt trapped and wish they had the guts to leave.  A guy I was seeing who was a lawyer didn’t want to date me anymore because he was so freaked out.  My friends thought it was surreal (and probably really stupid).  Everybody told me I would fail.

Because I wasn’t thinking, I started the business with $500.00 (not smart) and no investors (subject for another blog).  I had many, many years where I didn’t know if I would make it.  And I read everything I could get my hands on about the Law of Attraction & Louise Hay, etc., etc., etc.,  (way pre-“Secret” folks! ).  I worked the principles hard.  Affirmations, Vision Boards, Manifestations, etc., etc.   And I worked hard the old fashioned way.

It worked.  Big time.  In 2007, just like I had manifested, I received a call from  a public company wanting a Minneapolis presence. I told them I had just written a book, wasn’t ready to sell and would think about it only if they didn’t require me to stay and work for them.  “Everybody “said it wouldn’t work–that I would have to do an “earn out” for 3 to 5 years.  But guess what.  I sold on my birthday in 2007, and walked away 3 days later.

I’m  not telling you this to brag. I am telling you this because if a 29 year old midwesterner with a political science major who still struggles with spreadsheets can pull off her dreams, you can too!  I’m no genius.  I made a ridiculous amount of mistakes along the way.  I hired and promoted many wrong people.  I learned and then hired and promoted many right people. (But not perfectly).  And  I believed.  I worked hard.  Really hard.  But most importantly, I  believed in myself unconditionally and as they say in the law of attraction, planted seeds and kept nurturing them along.  It worked for me and it can work for you.  Really, Really, Really work for you.

This Blog’s About …

So this blog is all about lessons learned along the way and lessons I, my clients, friends, mentors continue to learn at deeper and deeper levels.  Besides talking about branding, interview tips, starting a business, selling a business, etc., etc., etc ., there is going to be a whole lot of talk about the “stuff” all around those issues.  Fear. Money Beliefs. Grief. Relationships. Spirituality. Excuses. Co-dependency. Manifestation. Faith. Laughter.  And why?  Because one very interesting things I was privileged to learn as a search consultant is that everybody is afraid.  Everybody feels alone.  The Ceo, the CFO, the General Counsel.  Pick your title….everybody is in the same boat.  Especially now.

So let’s begin this journey together by stopping the self-shame. We’re human.  We all get scared.  We all make mistakes.  Fear seems to be everywhere.  Everybody is asking “How am I gonna  find a job in this economy?”  “Support my family?”  They feel stuck.  They are scared.  Really scared.

So the big thing I’ve been telling my clients who feel stuck  to begin by taking a”baby step”.  Think of it as a “shift” or “tweak” if that helps frame it or if  taking a step feels to scary.  And that baby step is:  take your power backSome of the ways you can do this effortlessly include:

1. Take control of your environment.  Take control of that remote (change the channel or turn it off if need be).

If reading the paper or watching the news bums you out as it does me, stop reading the articles on how bad it is out there and read/listen to only the positive stuff out there. Read the hysterical funny but incredibly wise work of  Dr. Martha Beck at www.marthabeck.com.  Read Marianne Williamson www.marianne.com.  Read Danielle LaPorte’s fabulous blog, www.WhiteHotTruth.com. Check out www.workingkind.com.  Learn about powerful method of inquiry (4 questions people!) called ” The Work” by the very cool Byron Katie, author of  Loving What Is. Watch  Harvard trained brain scientist’s Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s video (www.ted.org or on www.youtube.com) of not only how it feels to have a stroke but she now uses it to create inner peace.  You will weep with joy.  I did. 

2.  A big shout here to Molly Hershey, Tom Keller, Linda Elwell, Patty Hamm, Amy Driscoll for helping me through some dark days ~ your  unconditional love, wisdom and kindness astounds me. (Thank you from the bottom of my heart).

3. Stop comparing yourself to other people & lose the “should”. Or saying I’m 50 and I have to start over???  Comparing yourself just feels plain icky and it doesn’t work. Everybody I know is starting over in some aspect of their life be it their job, their relationship, their finances. Focusing on how it “should be” versus “what is” doesn’t work and only keeps you stuck. “Should’s” are all about shame.

4.  Find ways to comfort yourself — be it a hot bath or a walk. I have come to know if it is free, it comforts you more. Forget buying “stuff “to make you feel better.  It is just stuff.  It’s not real.  What is real is the truth. The truth always reveals (thank again Mol).  If you stand in your truth, you no longer are stuck and good things happen.

5. And, no matter what the other person does to you or doesn’t do, remember that YOU can end on love no matter what.  Trust me.

Sending you Big, Big  Hugs,

Patty Comeford

Author, Lessons from a Headhunter with …Heart! (available at http://www.amazon.com)

CEO, YOU’RE NEVER STUCK, INC., WWW.YOURENEVERSTUCK.COM

 

 

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